Healing Difficult Emotions, Relationships and Love

Dealing with Our Dark Side

Several posts ago, I wrote about cultivating Flourish-Friendly Relationships instead of Control Relationships. You can read more about this here. Flourish-Friendly Relationships are ones in which the people involved create a space together for both them to grow and develop all their human capacities. Control Relationships, on the other hand, are relationships in which the… Continue reading Dealing with Our Dark Side

Healing Difficult Emotions, Uncategorized, Wonder and Whimsy

How to Use Your Imagination Like a Boss to Change Your Life and the World

Have You Ever…. Have you ever freaked yourself out in a dark room by imagining all of the scary monster, zombies, and bad guys reaching out to grab you? Have you ever driven yourself almost to panic swimming in a swimming pool because you imagined Jaws swimming up to get you? (And I am sorry… Continue reading How to Use Your Imagination Like a Boss to Change Your Life and the World

Body Love and Body Kindness, Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized

How I Stopped Chasing Unrealistic Beauty Standards and Found Something Better: and I am Happier and More Resilient Because of It

I was originally going to title this post “How I Gained Weight and Went Grey, and I am Happier and More Resilient than Ever.” And I still kind of like that title, but perhaps it is a little misleading. Because in this post, I’m not going to try to convince you to gain weight (or… Continue reading How I Stopped Chasing Unrealistic Beauty Standards and Found Something Better: and I am Happier and More Resilient Because of It

Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Care Package #3 for Stressful Times: Taking Your Emotional Temperature

This care package is about a self-regulation technique called "Taking Your Emotional Temperature" and how it can help us manage difficult times. (You can find links to related posts down below.)   A simple way to take your emotional temperature is to stop once or twice (or however many) times a day and ask yourself,… Continue reading Care Package #3 for Stressful Times: Taking Your Emotional Temperature

Healing Difficult Emotions, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Spirituality and Love

Care Package #2 for Stressful Times

Dear All: The Coronavirus situation can bring up a lot of painful feelings. This care package is about dealing with painful feelings in times like this. ***** If you enjoyed this post, please consider sharing on social media. If you enjoyed the post above, you might also like this post: An Anxiety Care Package for… Continue reading Care Package #2 for Stressful Times

Healing Difficult Emotions, Uncategorized

Anxiety Care Package #1 for Stressful Times

Dear All: I am writing this post during the Coronavirus pandemic (but this post is applicable to any time of stress and anxiety). A lot of us struggle with anxiety, especially during scenarios like we are facing right now. In times like this, we often need help managing our thoughts and worries. Below I have… Continue reading Anxiety Care Package #1 for Stressful Times

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Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Practices for Cultivating Love, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Do You Live from the Inside Out or the Outside In? (and Why This Question Matters.)

Do you live from the inside out or the outside in? Okay, to be honest, that is not an entirely fair question to ask you at the beginning of the post because I coined those phrases--Living from the Inside Out and Living from the Outside In, and I haven't even told you what they mean… Continue reading Do You Live from the Inside Out or the Outside In? (and Why This Question Matters.)

Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Practices for Cultivating Love, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

When We Feel Purposeless and Like We aren’t Good at Anything: Avoiding “Static Thinking”

Human beings need purpose. We need to feel like we have something special that we  share with the world. Given this need, it is understandable why we suffer painful feelings when we think we aren’t good at anything. For example, we may feel discouraged or depressed when we feel like we don’t have special any… Continue reading When We Feel Purposeless and Like We aren’t Good at Anything: Avoiding “Static Thinking”

Healing Difficult Emotions, Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Five Things You Can Do When You Get Stuck in Painful Emotions

The purpose of my blog is to help people practice kindness, compassion, and respect to live more resilient lives.[1] One of the ways we show ourselves kindness, compassion, and respect is by developing practices that help us cope with painful emotions. Sometimes painful emotions are severe enough that we need to seek help from a… Continue reading Five Things You Can Do When You Get Stuck in Painful Emotions