Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Is Believing We are Worthy a Good Idea?

Do you believe you are worthy right now, just as you are? If you are like a lot of people, you may not be sure what that means. On the other hand, you may have some idea what believing you are worthy means, but it may sound dangerous to you. You may feel like such… Continue reading Is Believing We are Worthy a Good Idea?

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Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Practices for Cultivating Love, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Do You Live from the Inside Out or the Outside In? (and Why This Question Matters.)

Do you live from the inside out or the outside in? Okay, to be honest, that is not an entirely fair question to ask you at the beginning of the post because I coined those phrases--Living from the Inside Out and Living from the Outside In, and I haven't even told you what they mean… Continue reading Do You Live from the Inside Out or the Outside In? (and Why This Question Matters.)

Body Love and Body Kindness, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Wonder and Whimsy

Exercise That Makes Me Feel Like a Magical Unicorn: What if We’ve Been Duped about Exercise All Along?

I have a complicated history with exercise. On the one hand, I loved playing when I was little. My favorite activities were hide-and-go-seek, climbing trees, and roller skating. My mom also enrolled me in a dance aerobics class when I was in high school, and I loved those classes. On the other hand, like most… Continue reading Exercise That Makes Me Feel Like a Magical Unicorn: What if We’ve Been Duped about Exercise All Along?

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Uncategorized

I Did Something Scary This Weekend (and I’m Really Glad I Did)

This weekend I did something scary, and I am really glad I did it. I flew out to Santa Barbara, California by myself to present a paper at a philosophy conference at UC Santa Barbara. Now, I have presented at philosophy conferences before. I have also flown by myself in the past. However, in the… Continue reading I Did Something Scary This Weekend (and I’m Really Glad I Did)

Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Practices for Cultivating Love, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

When We Feel Purposeless and Like We aren’t Good at Anything: Avoiding “Static Thinking”

Human beings need purpose. We need to feel like we have something special that we  share with the world. Given this need, it is understandable why we suffer painful feelings when we think we aren’t good at anything. For example, we may feel discouraged or depressed when we feel like we don’t have special any… Continue reading When We Feel Purposeless and Like We aren’t Good at Anything: Avoiding “Static Thinking”

Healing Difficult Emotions, Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Five Things You Can Do When You Get Stuck in Painful Emotions

The purpose of my blog is to help people practice kindness, compassion, and respect to live more resilient lives.[1] One of the ways we show ourselves kindness, compassion, and respect is by developing practices that help us cope with painful emotions. Sometimes painful emotions are severe enough that we need to seek help from a… Continue reading Five Things You Can Do When You Get Stuck in Painful Emotions

Body Love and Body Kindness, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety

10 Things to Do When You Feel Disgusting (and Need Help Remembering You’re Not)

Most of us have days we feel disgusting for some reason or another. Those days are the worst. When we feel disgusting, we often feel like we are inferior or unacceptable in some way, or we feel ashamed of ourselves. Feelings like this are a common part of human experience; but that doesn't make them… Continue reading 10 Things to Do When You Feel Disgusting (and Need Help Remembering You’re Not)

Body Love and Body Kindness, Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety

10 Awesome Reasons to Move Your Body That Have Nothing to Do With Weight Loss

Do you associate exercise with weight loss, or with wonder and pleasure? If you are like a lot of people, you associate exercise with weight loss, and if you are also like a lot of people, you don't really enjoy exercise. It is understandable why you feel this way. When we focus on losing weight*,… Continue reading 10 Awesome Reasons to Move Your Body That Have Nothing to Do With Weight Loss

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Relationships and Love

That Time I Accidentally Hid in a Poison Ivy Patch: A Love Story

I wish I could say that this story about me accidentally hiding in a poison ivy patch is hyperbolic, but it's not. But it is, indeed, a story about love. It all began one summer when I was a camp director at a camp in Ohio. I loved being a camp director. I loved designing… Continue reading That Time I Accidentally Hid in a Poison Ivy Patch: A Love Story

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Politics and Love

Justice Anxiety: When We Feel Overwhelmed about Working for a Better World

Ever since I was young, I have felt a strong desire to work for a better world. I remember being especially concerned about issues of poverty and homelessness when I was a teenager. Do You have Justice Anxiety? As I grew older, I was still concerned about these issues, but I also became concerned about… Continue reading Justice Anxiety: When We Feel Overwhelmed about Working for a Better World