Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Politics and Love

You, Society, and the Good Life: Two Different Views of Success

Let’s take a minute to think about the culture we live in. There are many good things about U.S. culture and cultures like it, but one of the negative aspects of our culture is that it often encourages a hyper-individualistic view of ourselves and the world. For instance, the fast-paced, high-stakes, competitive nature of our… Continue reading You, Society, and the Good Life: Two Different Views of Success

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Politics and Love, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Two Views of Human Beings: And Why the Views Matter

I firmly believe that the world needs more of you, not less of you. The world also needs more of me, not less of me. To explain what I mean, I would like to describe two ways of looking at people. The first view is the Winner-Loser View. This view of people suggests that people… Continue reading Two Views of Human Beings: And Why the Views Matter

Body Love and Body Kindness, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Uncategorized

From Enemy to Ally: Becoming Friends with Our Body

That Time Kant Inspired Me to Exercise I may be one of the only people in the world who has been inspired to be better friends with my body  by the philosopher Immanuel Kant. During my dissertation research[1], I spent a lot of time reading and researching Kant’s Lectures on Pedagogy. (There’s a point to… Continue reading From Enemy to Ally: Becoming Friends with Our Body

Body Love and Body Kindness, Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety

I Was Bullied Yesterday–and I Stood Up for Myself

I went to walk in the forest yesterday. And unfortunately, I met some bullies. At the entrance of the trail I walk on, there is a low concrete water cistern. Some teenage boys were sitting on it as I passed by it. There is also a small creek I have to cross over right past… Continue reading I Was Bullied Yesterday–and I Stood Up for Myself

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Affirmations for People Who Don’t Like Affirmations: And Why You Might Want to Use Them

I remember a popular SNL skit from the eighties. In the skit, there was a guy, Stuart Smalley, who looks into a mirror and says, “I’m smart enough, I’m good enough, and doggone it, people like me.” This was my first encounter with what are typically called affirmations. Affirmations are encouraging statements (some might call… Continue reading Affirmations for People Who Don’t Like Affirmations: And Why You Might Want to Use Them

Body Love and Body Kindness, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety

Instead of Dieting in the New Year…

It is the end of the year. It is a time when many of us have just celebrated Christmas or other holidays celebrations and are looking towards New Year. It is also a time when a lot of us freak out about our bodies and decide to go on a diet. If you are like… Continue reading Instead of Dieting in the New Year…

Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Politics and Love, Uncategorized

The Difference Between Self-Esteem, Dignity, and Self-Compassion—And Why It Matters

I am concerned about our culture.[1] There are many reasons I am concerned about it, but one of the reasons is that it is increasingly clear that many of us have a poor relationship with ourselves, and this causes a lot of personal and interpersonal problems. These personal and interpersonal problems are confirmed by recent… Continue reading The Difference Between Self-Esteem, Dignity, and Self-Compassion—And Why It Matters

Body Love and Body Kindness, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Practices for Cultivating Love, Uncategorized

What to Do When We Don’t Like Ourselves and We Want to Change

I can vividly remember several times in my life in which I did not like something about myself, and I wanted desperately to change. I think this is a common experience most of us have at one point or another. We look at ourselves and see all our bad habits. Or, we take a long,… Continue reading What to Do When We Don’t Like Ourselves and We Want to Change

Body Love and Body Kindness, Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Month Six and Seven of Beautiful Breathing: I Completely Surprise Myself

You will notice that I have combined months six and seven into one blog post. There’s a reason for that. (This post is part of a blog series I write every month on a breathing exercise I began in May. You can find a link to other posts in the series at the end of… Continue reading Month Six and Seven of Beautiful Breathing: I Completely Surprise Myself