I have been wanting to write this post for a long time, and having just celebrated Father’s Day on Sunday, I realized that now is the time. I want to write about the greatest gift my dad has given me. To tell you about this, I need to tell you a little bit about my… Continue reading The Greatest Gift My Dad Gave Me
Several posts ago, I wrote about cultivating Flourish-Friendly Relationships instead of Control Relationships. You can read more about this here. Flourish-Friendly Relationships are ones in which the people involved create a space together for both them to grow and develop all their human capacities. Control Relationships, on the other hand, are relationships in which the… Continue reading Dealing with Our Dark Side
Here’s something interesting about people. Adult humans could live a pretty secluded existence all by themselves, away from other people, if they wanted to do so. And, indeed, given the pain that relationships and interactions with other people can cause, we might be tempted to avoid such interactions as much as possible. And perhaps some… Continue reading Flourish-Friendly Relationships vs. Control Relationships: What are They, and Why Is it Important to Understand Them?
My husband and I had to say goodbye to our kitty Leo last week. We are heartbroken, but it was Leo's time to go. He had lived a long life--we think about 15 years--and his health had been declining recently. Last week we realized that keeping him here with us any longer wasn't doing him… Continue reading Lessons I Learned from My Kitty Leo
“You’re too sensitive.” Has anyone ever said this to you before? Have you ever said this to anyone else? This is a common claim (or accusation), but how can we tell if someone is being too sensitive or if the other person is being insensitive? I will use two people, Person A and Person B,… Continue reading Are You Too Sensitive or are Others Insensitive? Also—Are You Insensitive or are Others Too Sensitive?
In the past few decades, the United States has made excellent strides in promoting civil rights, especially for People of Color and other minority groups. We had our first African-American president, and we increasingly see People of Color in our government. This is cause for celebration. Nevertheless, we still have a long way to go… Continue reading About Oppression, Racism, White Privilege, and Justice: Why Oppression Harms All of Us
I wish I could say that this story about me accidentally hiding in a poison ivy patch is hyperbolic, but it's not. But it is, indeed, a story about love. It all began one summer when I was a camp director at a camp in Ohio. I loved being a camp director. I loved designing… Continue reading That Time I Accidentally Hid in a Poison Ivy Patch: A Love Story
First, you should know that I did actually almost get stuck on a volcano once, but don't worry because it wasn't an active volcano. I'll come back to that in a minute. Also, this wasn't my first brush with volcanoes. I lived in Portland, Oregon when Mount St. Helens erupted in 1980. I vividly remember… Continue reading That Time I Almost Got Stuck on a Volcano, and I’m Not Making This Up
I write about self-love and body-love a lot on my blog because I want people to learn to love themselves better in order to live a more integrated, peaceful, and powerful life. So it may seem strange on such a blog for me to write about self-help hurting people and perpetuating injustice because much of… Continue reading The Myths of American Individualism: When Self-Help Perpetuates Injustice
Most of us have had people be really unkind or cruel to us at one point or another. Sometimes we are able to shake off people's unkindness and to move on, but sometimes, for a variety of reasons, people's unkindness affects us deeply and can cause deep and consistent painful feelings. I take unkind actions… Continue reading Five Things You Can Do When People Treat You Cruelly and Unkindly