Contemplative Practice, Practices for Cultivating Love, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Spirituality and Love

Contemplative Practices: What they are; Why They are for Everyone; and How they Help Us

One of the most loving and powerful things we can do for ourselves is develop a consistent contemplative practice. The phrase contemplative practice may sounds religious or mystical to you, and it can be both of these things, but don't worry: even if you are not religious and do not practice any faith, contemplative practices… Continue reading Contemplative Practices: What they are; Why They are for Everyone; and How they Help Us

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Relationships and Love

That Time I Accidentally Hid in a Poison Ivy Patch: A Love Story

I wish I could say that this story about me accidentally hiding in a poison ivy patch is hyperbolic, but it's not. But it is, indeed, a story about love. It all began one summer when I was a camp director at a camp in Ohio. I loved being a camp director. I loved designing… Continue reading That Time I Accidentally Hid in a Poison Ivy Patch: A Love Story

Relationships and Love, Uncategorized

That Time I Almost Got Stuck on a Volcano, and I’m Not Making This Up

First, you should know that I did actually almost get stuck on a volcano once, but don't worry because it wasn't an active volcano. I'll come back to that in a minute. Also, this wasn't my first brush with volcanoes. I lived in Portland, Oregon when Mount St. Helens erupted  in 1980. I vividly remember… Continue reading That Time I Almost Got Stuck on a Volcano, and I’m Not Making This Up

Healing Difficult Emotions, Uncategorized

What I am Grateful for Today, What I have Compassion for Today

I believe in expressing gratitude for things in my life--every day if I can. But I also believe in acknowledging sad and difficult things and showing compassion. Life can be really hard sometimes. When I focus on things I am grateful for, I better see all of the gifts, beauty, and treasure I have in… Continue reading What I am Grateful for Today, What I have Compassion for Today

Healing Difficult Emotions

When We Hit Bumps in Life’s Road and Crash

When I was younger, I thought that if I just did everything right, my life would go smoothly; I wouldn't have any problems and people would treat me fairly; and I would generally be happy most of the time. Of course, it didn't take me long as a young adult to figure out that this… Continue reading When We Hit Bumps in Life’s Road and Crash

Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Relationships and Love, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized

Judgment or Compassion: Two Responses to the Pain of Being Human

Most of us know theoretically that we are human beings; however, many of us still live unconsciously with expectations that we live and behave in a superhuman way. Human or Superhuman? To be human is to be finite, which means that we get sick, we make mistakes, we fail, we experience change, we experience loss… Continue reading Judgment or Compassion: Two Responses to the Pain of Being Human

Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized

Compassion: A Way Forward Through Suffering

Compassion: It is one of the most important, underrated, and meaningful gifts we can give to ourselves and to others. Compassion and Suffering Let me define compassion. Compassion comes from the Latin words cum (with) and patior (to suffer). This etymology suggests that compassion means “to suffer with” or to be “with suffering”. When we… Continue reading Compassion: A Way Forward Through Suffering

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Uncategorized

Five Ways to Be a Friend to Yourself and Why This is Important

How we treat ourselves, what we say to ourselves, and what we think about ourselves tremendously impacts us. We are the closet person to us, and so if we treat ourselves in a continually hostile or cruel manner, it can lead to feelings of depression, anxiety, and worthlessness. On the other hand, if we treat… Continue reading Five Ways to Be a Friend to Yourself and Why This is Important

Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Politics and Love, Self-compassion

How Embracing Vulnerability Changed My Life (And Why I am Still Working on It)

Needing to Be Right Once upon a time it was incredibly important for me to be right. About everything. I have a vivid memory of arguing with my little brother when I was about ten years old. I do not remember exactly what we were arguing about, but I do remember being furious with him.… Continue reading How Embracing Vulnerability Changed My Life (And Why I am Still Working on It)

Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Practices for Cultivating Love, Uncategorized

Five Things You Can Do When Your Day is Horrible, and You Hate Everything

All of us have days that are the absolute worst. We might wake up feeling awful and miserable, and we have no idea why. Sometimes, on the other hand, we know exactly why we hate everything , but we still do not have any idea what to do about it. All of these feelings can… Continue reading Five Things You Can Do When Your Day is Horrible, and You Hate Everything