Step #7: I set the intention to infuse all of my relationships with Love. When we learn to recognize the difference between the Wise and Wounded Self, we realize that the Wise Self is the truest self in us and in everyone else. It becomes much easier to infuse all of our relationships with unconditional… Continue reading Losing Ourselves, Finding Ourselves, and Infusing Our Relationships with Love: Step Seven—Seven Steps to Love
Step Six: I asked Love to show me how to let go of the need to be perfect, to punish, and to be in control. In this series of posts, I have been writing about how many of us unconsciously struggle with problems of self-hate. The Need for Perfectionism, Punishment, and Control The feeling that… Continue reading Letting Go of Perfectionism, Punishment, and Control: Step Six—Seven Steps to Love
Step #5: I asked Love to show me how to connect with it and rest in it through trust and surrender. One of the most painful feelings we have is the feeling that we are alone and that it is all up to us. We often believe that we have to figure out everything on… Continue reading Connecting With Love Through Trust and Surrender: Step Five: Seven Steps to Love (Recovering from Self-Hate).
When we give ourselves the gift of presence, we are with ourselves in all of our moments—our joyful and sorrowful moments, our moments of success and failure, the moments when we love ourselves, and the moments when we feel full of shame. We recognize and accept ourselves in all of our human emotions and experiences.… Continue reading The Gift of Presence: Being an Empowering Friend to Ourselves
When I was younger, I knew a girl who seemed to be a really sweet and friendly person. However, I soon discovered that the only time she was friendly to me was when she needed to borrow money. Initially I really liked this girl, and I lent her money a couple of times because I… Continue reading The Gift of Respect: Treating Ourselves as People and Not Objects
For most of my life I have been motivated by the question, "How can I be better?" While I may have had some good motivation behind this question at times, in general I think it has generally done more harm than good in my life. So recently, I have learned to ask myself a much… Continue reading Love: The Place We Must Start