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Are Humans Good or Evil by Nature?

At the small liberal arts college where I teach, I teach an introductory course called Foundations. It is a class that teaches freshmen the basics of reading, writing, and critical thinking, but it is also a lot more than that. The class focuses on the theme of Being Human, and we explore this theme by… Continue reading Are Humans Good or Evil by Nature?

Poetry

For Just One Moment…: A Poem

For just one moment, pause... And stop labeling yourself As fat, thin, short, tall, Ugly, beautiful, Desirable, undesirable. For just one moment, think... About your amazing body And how it carries you every day, And your heart pumps and your lungs breathe, Because your body loves you. For just one minute, refuse... To place yourself… Continue reading For Just One Moment…: A Poem

Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Politics and Love, Self-compassion

Dealing With Painful Emotions in a Loving Way: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Hopeless

Suffering and pain are an inescapable part of the human condition. Given that, sometimes it seems like having a positive outlook is delusional, naïve, or even irresponsible. I have come to believe, however, that having a positive outlook is one of the most helpful things in life. Adopting such an outlook is not naïve or… Continue reading Dealing With Painful Emotions in a Loving Way: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Hopeless

Feminism and Love, Poetry, Politics and Love

To the Loving Feminine and Her Allies

There is a lot of toxic aggression in the world right now. I have been thinking about how the loving feminine acts as a balance and healing counter-check to this problem. And so, I wrote a letter to the Loving Feminine and Her Allies.   If you enjoyed this post, please share it with a… Continue reading To the Loving Feminine and Her Allies

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Uncategorized

Love is the Oldest, Wisest Thing in You and in the World

Most of spend a great deal of time looking for love. We look for others to love us, and many of us spend a great deal of time figuring out we can better in some way so that we can finally love ourselves. I think it often feels like it is difficult to find love… Continue reading Love is the Oldest, Wisest Thing in You and in the World

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety

Stop Forcing; Start Flowing (Meditation)

Dear Friend: You may be having a really hard day today. You may be trying so hard to reach a goal, or you may be working so hard to fight a bad habit that you just can't seem to beat. You may be trying really hard to make a relationship work that just seems to… Continue reading Stop Forcing; Start Flowing (Meditation)

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

A Letter to You on Valentine’s Day (Especially if You are Feeling Crummy This Holiday)

Dear Friend: Today is Valentine’s Day, and you might be feeling particularly crummy. If you are, this letter is especially for you. But even if you are not, this letter is still for you. There is a lot of pressure on Valentine's Day to have or to be the perfect partner and to have a… Continue reading A Letter to You on Valentine’s Day (Especially if You are Feeling Crummy This Holiday)

Politics and Love

How I Started Believing in Santa Claus This Year. And I am Mostly Serious

I don’t ever remember believing in Santa Claus growing up. There is a recording of me at Christmas when I was three. I opened a present, and when I discovered the doll I had wanted, I exclaimed to my mom, “Oh Faye!” Of course, I usually called her mommy at age three, and I am… Continue reading How I Started Believing in Santa Claus This Year. And I am Mostly Serious

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The Politics of Force and the Strange Work of Love: On the Power To Be In Trumpland

Donald Trump’s election has troubled me profoundly, and I have not always been able to articulate why. It is not just the troubling language that dominated Trump’s campaign, although this is definitely a significant concern. It is not just that my preferred candidate didn’t win the election. My preferred candidate has lost an election in… Continue reading The Politics of Force and the Strange Work of Love: On the Power To Be In Trumpland

Politics and Love

Rene Girard, Donald Trump, and How I Got My Advent Groove Back

I have a confession: In the past, I haven’t liked the season of Advent very much. This is a bummer because I am Christian, and I feel like I should like Advent. I mean, Advent is the time of the year when we anticipate the birth of the Christ Child—the Christ who takes away the… Continue reading Rene Girard, Donald Trump, and How I Got My Advent Groove Back