Really Bad Days There are days when we feel ugly, gross, worthless, and our confidence plummets into a very dark, deep well. It is no wonder that we struggle with these feelings. We live in a media-saturated society, in which we are surrounded by perfectly fit, airbrushed images all the time. This can teach us… Continue reading Five Things You Can Do When You Feel Ugly and Gross and Your Confidence Plummets Into a Deep, Dark Well
All of us have days that are the absolute worst. We might wake up feeling awful and miserable, and we have no idea why. Sometimes, on the other hand, we know exactly why we hate everything , but we still do not have any idea what to do about it. All of these feelings can… Continue reading Five Things You Can Do When Your Day is Horrible, and You Hate Everything
Dear Friend: Last night I was channeling Shel Silverstein, and I wrote a poem about you and how fantastic you are. ***** If you enjoyed this post, please consider sharing it on social media.
One of the most common pieces of advice we hear growing up is “Just be yourself”. I always found this advice so confusing and frustrating because I felt like it meant that somewhere in myself, I was fully formed and already wonderful and great—I just had to find this self, and all would be okay.… Continue reading How to Be Ourselves When We Don’t Know Who We Are
In my last few posts, I wrote about self-love and why I believe that if we want our life to be better, internally or externally, we must start with love. Self-love occurs when we give ourselves the best and most noble gifts. These beautify our inner life and, in turn, this beautifies our external lives.… Continue reading Reflection Questions and Practices for Self-Love
Most of us experience a brief and passing feeling at one point or another that we are not good. Sometimes, however, the worry that we are not good enough becomes persistent and recurring. It causes anxiety, self-loathing, and chronic low self-confidence. One cause of the "I'm Not Good Enough" feeling is something I call the… Continue reading That “I’m Not Good Enough” Feeling and the Compassionate Mindset
When we give ourselves the gift of presence, we are with ourselves in all of our moments—our joyful and sorrowful moments, our moments of success and failure, the moments when we love ourselves, and the moments when we feel full of shame. We recognize and accept ourselves in all of our human emotions and experiences.… Continue reading The Gift of Presence: Being an Empowering Friend to Ourselves