Body Love and Body Kindness, Healing Difficult Emotions, Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Practices for Cultivating Love

Five Things You Can Do When You Feel Ugly and Gross and Your Confidence Plummets Into a Deep, Dark Well

Really Bad Days There are days when we feel ugly, gross, worthless, and our confidence plummets into a very dark, deep well. It is no wonder that we struggle with these feelings. We live in a media-saturated society, in which we are surrounded by perfectly fit, airbrushed images all the time. This can teach us… Continue reading Five Things You Can Do When You Feel Ugly and Gross and Your Confidence Plummets Into a Deep, Dark Well

Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Practices for Cultivating Love, Uncategorized

Five Things You Can Do When Your Day is Horrible, and You Hate Everything

All of us have days that are the absolute worst. We might wake up feeling awful and miserable, and we have no idea why. Sometimes, on the other hand, we know exactly why we hate everything , but we still do not have any idea what to do about it. All of these feelings can… Continue reading Five Things You Can Do When Your Day is Horrible, and You Hate Everything

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How to Be Ourselves When We Don’t Know Who We Are

One of the most common pieces of advice we hear growing up is “Just be yourself”. I always found this advice so confusing and frustrating because I felt like it meant that somewhere in myself, I was fully formed and already wonderful and great—I just had to find this self, and all would be okay.… Continue reading How to Be Ourselves When We Don’t Know Who We Are

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Reflection Questions and Practices for Self-Love

In my last few posts, I wrote about self-love and why I believe that if we want our life to be better, internally or externally, we must start with love. Self-love occurs when we give ourselves the best and most noble gifts. These beautify our inner life and, in turn, this beautifies our external lives.… Continue reading Reflection Questions and Practices for Self-Love

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

That “I’m Not Good Enough” Feeling and the Compassionate Mindset

Most of us experience a brief and passing feeling at one point or another that we are not good. Sometimes, however, the worry that we are not good enough becomes persistent and recurring. It causes anxiety, self-loathing, and chronic low self-confidence. One cause of the "I'm Not Good Enough" feeling is something I call the… Continue reading That “I’m Not Good Enough” Feeling and the Compassionate Mindset

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

The Gift of Presence: Being an Empowering Friend to Ourselves

When we give ourselves the gift of presence, we are with ourselves in all of our moments—our joyful and sorrowful moments, our moments of success and failure, the moments when we love ourselves, and the moments when we feel full of shame. We recognize and accept ourselves in all of our human emotions and experiences.… Continue reading The Gift of Presence: Being an Empowering Friend to Ourselves