Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

If You Feel Second-Rate Today

Somewhere at some point in your life, someone told you you were second-rate.  Someone tried to make you feel like you weren't one of the cool or special people. They tried to make you feel like you were ugly or dumb or unfashionable or uncool or ungodly or lazy or impractical or a drag or… Continue reading If You Feel Second-Rate Today

Self-compassion

Sticking Up for Ourselves and Resisting Bullies and Boundary Crashers

Sticking Up for Our Friends Imagine a very dear friend that you love a great deal. Now imagine that someone is picking on your friend, being cruel to her, bullying her, calling her names. Imagine how indignant you would feel at this bully’s treatment of your friend. I bet you would stand up for your… Continue reading Sticking Up for Ourselves and Resisting Bullies and Boundary Crashers

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Practices for Cultivating Love

What are You Saying to Yourself Today?

The things you say to yourself can empower you to live more fully and beautifully, or they can wilt your spirit. You are the closest person to you, so what you say to yourself really matters. This is how our spirit feels when we say unkind things to ourselves. Here are two things you can… Continue reading What are You Saying to Yourself Today?

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety

Becoming Your Own Best Friend

In my last two posts, I discussed how to cultivate self-love by thinking of yourself as a child you love  and by speaking to yourself as you would a child or a friend you love.   In this post, I will discuss how you can cultivate self-love by making a self-love pledge. Think of a friend who… Continue reading Becoming Your Own Best Friend

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Uncategorized

Using Loving Affirmations to Cultivate Self-Love

In my last post, I discussed the first way we can cultivate self-love, which is to think of ourselves as a little child.  Just like children need love, encouragement, care, and compassion to flourish, we also need these things. Think of yourself like a little child who needs love and nurturing to flourish. This leads… Continue reading Using Loving Affirmations to Cultivate Self-Love

Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-compassion, Uncategorized

Adopting a Loving View of Yourself

Loving Ourselves, Hating Ourselves How well do you like yourself? Which of the following statements best represents your relationship with yourself? I absolutely love myself. I’m okay, but I really get on my nerves sometimes. I have more things I dislike about myself than I love about myself. I hate myself. If you are like… Continue reading Adopting a Loving View of Yourself

Healing Difficult Emotions, Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-compassion, Uncategorized

Five Reasons You Don’t Have to Worry About What People Think

We worry a lot about what people think of us. We worry what they think about our fashion choices, our looks, the things we say, our level of success, and our particular interests or hobbies. Even the philosopher Heidegger speaks of The They[1]—the amorphous, ambiguous atmosphere of other people’s judgments. We end up living in… Continue reading Five Reasons You Don’t Have to Worry About What People Think