Self-compassion

Why Self-Love is Not Selfishness and Narcissism: On Becoming a Good Friend to Others by Being a Good Friend to Ourselves

Self-Love Makes Us Uncomfortable People often feel very uncomfortable with the idea of loving themselves. I know that for years I did. Perhaps this is because in the past we have encountered people who seemed to love themselves more than anyone else, and this led them to act in a narcissistic and selfish manner to those… Continue reading Why Self-Love is Not Selfishness and Narcissism: On Becoming a Good Friend to Others by Being a Good Friend to Ourselves

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Reflection Questions and Practices for Self-Love

In my last few posts, I wrote about self-love and why I believe that if we want our life to be better, internally or externally, we must start with love. Self-love occurs when we give ourselves the best and most noble gifts. These beautify our inner life and, in turn, this beautifies our external lives.… Continue reading Reflection Questions and Practices for Self-Love

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

The Gift of Respect: Treating Ourselves as People and Not Objects

When I was younger, I knew a girl who seemed to be a really sweet and friendly person. However, I soon discovered that the only time she was friendly to me was when she needed to borrow money. Initially I really liked this girl, and I lent her money a couple of times because I… Continue reading The Gift of Respect: Treating Ourselves as People and Not Objects

Politics and Love, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Love: The Place We Must Start

For most of my life I have been motivated by the question, "How can I be better?" While I may have had some good motivation behind this question at times, in general I think it has generally done more harm than good in my life. So recently, I have learned to ask myself a much… Continue reading Love: The Place We Must Start