Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized, Wonder and Whimsy

Three Awesome Gifts I Have Given Myself in the Last Decade

I believe in the power of self-love, but I also believe that self-love is quite different from how many people think of it. People often think that self-love is going on shopping trips, getting manis and pedis, and treating one's self to chocolate and other delectable delights. And certainly these things can play a role… Continue reading Three Awesome Gifts I Have Given Myself in the Last Decade

Lists About Important and Silly Stuff, Politics and Love, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

7 Things I have Learned about Love in the Last Decade

This is Valentine's Day weekend, and my blog is called Love is Stronger. I named my blog this because I think love is one of the most important topics in the world. Gaining a better understanding of it has made a profound difference in my life. So, for these reasons, it seems like a good… Continue reading 7 Things I have Learned about Love in the Last Decade

Practices for Cultivating Love

Letting Your Light Shine vs. Slave-Driving Yourself: A Brief Reflection and Practice

Reflection I want to remind you today that you have permission to make mistakes and fail. You also have permission to feel sad, to take naps, and to take a break. You are already worthy, and your purpose is not to get your "to-do" list done or to win at everything or to be the… Continue reading Letting Your Light Shine vs. Slave-Driving Yourself: A Brief Reflection and Practice

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-compassion, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Affirmations for People Who Don’t Like Affirmations: And Why You Might Want to Use Them

I remember a popular SNL skit from the eighties. In the skit, there was a guy, Stuart Smalley, who looks into a mirror and says, “I’m smart enough, I’m good enough, and doggone it, people like me.” This was my first encounter with what are typically called affirmations. Affirmations are encouraging statements (some might call… Continue reading Affirmations for People Who Don’t Like Affirmations: And Why You Might Want to Use Them

Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Practices for Cultivating Love

Why Self-Love is Different from Shopping Trips and Pedicures

I believe the practice of authentic self-love is essential for our personal well-being, and I also believe it is often misunderstood. One common misconception of self-love is that it is the same as selfishness and narcissism. I have written more about why it is neither of these things here and here. Another common misconception about self-love… Continue reading Why Self-Love is Different from Shopping Trips and Pedicures

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

If You Feel Second-Rate Today

Somewhere at some point in your life, someone told you you were second-rate.  Someone tried to make you feel like you weren't one of the cool or special people. They tried to make you feel like you were ugly or dumb or unfashionable or uncool or ungodly or lazy or impractical or a drag or… Continue reading If You Feel Second-Rate Today

Healing Difficult Emotions, Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness, Uncategorized

Connecting With Love Through Trust and Surrender: Step Five: Seven Steps to Love (Recovering from Self-Hate).

Step #5: I asked Love to show me how to connect with it and rest in it through trust and surrender. One of the most painful feelings we have is the feeling that we are alone and that it is all up to us. We often believe that we have to figure out everything on… Continue reading Connecting With Love Through Trust and Surrender: Step Five: Seven Steps to Love (Recovering from Self-Hate).

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

How I Survived Curly Hair and Stopped Hating Jennifer Aniston: A New Year Reflection

First of all, I didn't really hate Jennifer Aniston. We just had a bit of a falling out, but I will get to that in a minute. What I want to talk about first is how I survived curly hair, which is no easy task. I have always had curly hair, and I have the… Continue reading How I Survived Curly Hair and Stopped Hating Jennifer Aniston: A New Year Reflection

Body Love and Body Kindness, Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Healing Our Hearts Through Kindness

Life can be painful and traumatic, and we all carry wounds in our hearts from difficult situations, relationships, and events in our life. These wounds can make it difficult for us to feel confident,  to bounce back from difficult times, and to pursue our potential. What we need in times like this is unconditional love.… Continue reading Healing Our Hearts Through Kindness