Self-compassion

Sticking Up for Ourselves and Resisting Bullies and Boundary Crashers

Sticking Up for Our Friends Imagine a very dear friend that you love a great deal. Now imagine that someone is picking on your friend, being cruel to her, bullying her, calling her names. Imagine how indignant you would feel at this bully’s treatment of your friend. I bet you would stand up for your… Continue reading Sticking Up for Ourselves and Resisting Bullies and Boundary Crashers

Overcoming Self-loathing and Anxiety

Becoming Your Own Best Friend

In my last two posts, I discussed how to cultivate self-love by thinking of yourself as a child you love  and by speaking to yourself as you would a child or a friend you love.   In this post, I will discuss how you can cultivate self-love by making a self-love pledge. Think of a friend who… Continue reading Becoming Your Own Best Friend

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Adopting a Loving View of Yourself

Loving Ourselves, Hating Ourselves How well do you like yourself? Which of the following statements best represents your relationship with yourself? I absolutely love myself. I’m okay, but I really get on my nerves sometimes. I have more things I dislike about myself than I love about myself. I hate myself. If you are like… Continue reading Adopting a Loving View of Yourself

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

Michelle Obama, Mean Sixth Grade Boys, and Knowing Who You Are

Can you remember a time when someone made you feel worthless? I can. I was in fifth grade, and I had started a new school. I was on the brink of adolescence. My world was changing dramatically, and I was looking for some kind of confirmation that everything was okay—that I was okay. I remember… Continue reading Michelle Obama, Mean Sixth Grade Boys, and Knowing Who You Are

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Reflection Questions and Practices for Self-Love

In my last few posts, I wrote about self-love and why I believe that if we want our life to be better, internally or externally, we must start with love. Self-love occurs when we give ourselves the best and most noble gifts. These beautify our inner life and, in turn, this beautifies our external lives.… Continue reading Reflection Questions and Practices for Self-Love

Self-Love and Self-Directed Kindness

The Gift of Respect: Treating Ourselves as People and Not Objects

When I was younger, I knew a girl who seemed to be a really sweet and friendly person. However, I soon discovered that the only time she was friendly to me was when she needed to borrow money. Initially I really liked this girl, and I lent her money a couple of times because I… Continue reading The Gift of Respect: Treating Ourselves as People and Not Objects