I am going to describe three different scenarios to you, and I would ask you to use your imagination to put yourself fully into each of them. Scenario #1: The Kentucky-Tennessee 10K Race. Imagine that you are a runner and that you live in Kentucky. You have entered a 10K race in which all participants… Continue reading Should White People Feel Ashamed of White Privilege?
The Do Enough Myth is one of the most common causes of shame in our lives, and this is not at all surprising when we understand what The Do Enough Myth teaches. Here are the key ideas of this myth: You are not born lovable, valuable, and worthy. You must prove your worth in order… Continue reading The Great Love Story: Healing Shame by Exchanging the Do Enough Myth for a New Story
I have been thinking about shame lately. Shame is the belief, with an accompanying painful feeling, that we are not good enough or that we are deeply flawed, gross, or radically imperfect. Shame and Anxiety I believe many of us struggle with feelings of shame and unworthiness on a regular basis. These feelings might manifest… Continue reading The Do Enough Myth, Our Anxiety, and Healing Our Feelings of Shame and Unworthiness
When we give ourselves the gift of presence, we are with ourselves in all of our moments—our joyful and sorrowful moments, our moments of success and failure, the moments when we love ourselves, and the moments when we feel full of shame. We recognize and accept ourselves in all of our human emotions and experiences.… Continue reading The Gift of Presence: Being an Empowering Friend to Ourselves